Our willingness to express our hopes and fears is matched by the proportional likelihood that we will be manipulated and exploited accordingly. This isn't to say specifically how often the latter will happen when we open up, but people are undoubtedly manipulated along these lines by those they've trusted. The breakdown of the family in modern America suggests a limitation of unconditional love and almost everyone has witnessed basic betrayals of trust. Many of us have, consequently, become more guarded when establishing relationships. Our subsequent lack of openness further impedes our ability to form various forms of relationships and this, in turn, creates a negative feedback loop based upon the fact that we know information is being withheld from us -- which causes us to be more suspicious of others and, therefore, emotionally guarded and distant.
Politically, when the realities of surveillance and opportunistic
maliciousness are added, issues of trust and healthy relationships are
complicated further. We have a difficult time simply establishing basic
personal relationships, but establishing trusted political alliances
can be far more daunting. It's possible to get lucky in terms of love
or affinity groups, but it would be better if luck were less of a
necessary factor in these regards.